im thinkin its been too long since i've been here, which begins my next thought= where to start?
what do you call a wookie that plays with clay?
(harry potter)
if a turtle looses its shell, is it naked or homeless?
deep thoughts, eh.
this past week we had training all week on motivational interviewing. The trainer was really focused on "the clients have the answer" ... "we are part of the intervention, not the outcome". as we anaylzed communication in's and out's, it was so very obvious how everyone in the room were "fixers". we all hear a problem and immediately start asking questions and giving advice. the trainer revealed how powerful just the act of listening and reflecting on what is said is. Through these acts, it is more likely someone will come up with their own action to move forward and be more successful in it since it was their own choice. everyone wants to be in control of their own life. ...and usually giving advice only makes the advice giver feel better.
we did a lot of exercises in real-play (instead of role play-- real life is more natural) which proved these statements. its crazy to shift how you address someone, but its definitely a positive shift.
